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Hark at them…

May 22, 2022 by Gill

Another year, another Stroke Awareness month… I’m thrilled that Somerset libraries have  taken the opportunity to join in, with this month’s podcast. Jeremy Thompson-Smith made the whole Zoom interview so easy… Perhaps too easy. My    husband Terry, thinking we sounded so relaxed, assumed we must have finished and joined in to say hello. The best bit of this interview is his unscheduled guest appearance, and I was so chuffed it was retained in  the final edit. Unlike Joe Faber, he isn’t a model-maker – but he is a guitarist who used to play many styles, and who’s never given up on playing again. I can’t tell you how hard and painful that process is when one hand is weak and unreliable. But I can say that nine years on, he’s finding his own wacky way of playing a tune.  

I’ve had my head down, working on an audio version of Joe Faber and the Optimists. Terry has barely opened a print book since the stroke, it’s just too awkward; he reads on a tablet now.  Audio is something I’ve always wanted to do, but seemed too big a mountain to climb. However, meeting a local stroke group at Yeovil library reminded me that  so many people find books, literally, hard to handle, not just physically but because brain injury can impair one’s vision or ability to read. If it gives any of them a chuckle or a hug, the effort will be worth it. So let’s hear it for libraries and the brilliant ways they make paths cross! 

Filed Under: Stroke Support

Book tour, March 2021

April 15, 2021 by Gill

Thank you Kelly at www.lovebookstours.com for  organising this virtual book tour!  And thanks to all the lovely book bloggers who participated…

  • Mrs Book Burney

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  • My Reading Narnia

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CMti8G6r91f/

  • Vicarioush Living

    https://vicarioushome.com/joe-faber-and-the-optimists-gill-oliver/

  • Tracey Wheeler

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CMweZDkLv-D/

  • The Wee Bookworm

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CMzxw8TLB8u/

  • Reading through the Looking Glass

    https://readingthroughthelookinglass.wordpress.com/2021/03/24/joe-faber-and-the-optimists-by-gill-oliver/

  • Daisy Says

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CM3AQE3pdtv/

  • Rhianydd Morris

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CM7BSSTLXnc/

  • breathe.andread

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CM720jzL93t/

  • Bianca Reads Books

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  • Lisa's Reading

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  • These Sisters Read

    https://www.instagram.com/p/CNIp_rBLhON/

Daisy Says@username
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What a warm, enjoyable read this was. The author Gill Oliver clearly has intimate knowledge on the subject but tells the story with great humour. A family hit by devastating illness, displaying great fortitude, human spirit, strength, determination and above all love. Really well written and a real joy to read. I couldn’t put this book down. Eagerly looking forward to reading Amateurs. If Joe Faber and the Optimists is anything to go by, it will be a joy. Highly recommended 
Lynn@breathe.andread
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This isn’t a book I would usually have picked up, but I’m so glad I had the chance to read it. I found all the characters that surrounded Joe very endearing and loved the stories that surrounded him and them, and his recovery after a stroke. This is a subject I don’t really know much about, and to be honest, haven’t thought about before. I found the story entertaining (there’s a lot of humour) but also informative. As a musician (although it’s been a while), I enjoyed those parts of the story as well as the manic wedding planning, which I have also experienced! Overall, I really enjoyed this book and would recommended it to others.
Bianca@bianca_reads_books
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"What a great read, after her husband Joe has a stroke Fran and their family must rally round to see Joe through his recovery. While this was an emotional subject, and very sensitively handled, there were some real moments of humour in there too which made it all the more realistic. There were other elements at work in the story which all tied in with Joe and his new life. I think this really gave the story a lot of character.I loved the fiddle and Shetland parts, I have been to Shetland once and completely fell in love so these sections of the book were such a delight. Really well written, a lovely, uplifting story."
My Reading Narnia
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"Life changes dramatically for the Faber family after Joe has a stroke. His wife suddenly finds herself responsible for the upkeep of everything, the house, finances and caring for her husband. Their Daughter Jess who is due to marry soon, gets the job opportunity of a life time to play at the Shetland folk frenzy. As Joe starts to make progress in his rehabilitation, seeing his daughter play at the festival becomes his number one goal.This book doesn’t just focus on Joe , it follows the family and their associated friends through his road to recovery and the changes that occur as they journey towards a new normal. This is a very positive and realistic portrayal of life after a stroke. I laughed out loud at times and also shed a tear or two. A hopeful and optimistic story that I’d recommend everyone to read, whether stroke has affected your life or not."
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Maressa Mortimer@Vicarious living
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"“For months she’d fixed her eyes on the road ahead, and never once allowed herself to look back at what was lost.” This lovely book, Joe Faber and the Optimists, is written by Gill Oliver and is all about Joe Faber, a wonderful, funny and artistic man. Joe builds models until he suffers a stroke. Fran, Joe’s wife, copes well, but there is also their daughter Jess, a very skilled music player. She plays the fiddle, and her father’s stroke really hits her hard. Fran thinks of ways to handle the next few days and weeks and comes up with a manifesto. The idea is to be an optimist, to look for positives and celebrate each one. She manages to persuade Jess and Jess’s fiancé Matt, to join in with the manifesto. It’s so poignant to read their little moments of triumph, looking for things to smile about. Joe is funny, and the story is full of hope.There are so many wonderful storylines within this book, like the invitation Jess receives to play in a big music festival in the Shetland Islands. The descriptions are gorgeous, making you feel part of their lives. I love fiddle music, and I could just picture the music Jess played for us, and there are parts where the descriptions are filled with emotion. Even now, I can still imagine the special song, Joe Faber’s Air. Then there are the wedding plans, accompanied by hilarious friends and relatives, all so clearly drawn for us, that you feel you’re wandering around reception halls together. Matt the fiancé made me laugh; his way of looking at life is interesting, but he’s a lovely guy, and it’s his thoughtfulness and quiet kindness that makes Fran realise that all this time she has been looking ahead, staying positive, but there had been no time to grieve. I loved that part, as it’s so easy to get carried away by circumstances. Matt is so different, and I enjoyed reading how he becomes more and more part of the family. The book is wonderfully positive and makes you smile and tap your feet along with the reels and music Jess gets out of her fiddle. There are moments of harsh reality as well though, and my heart went out to them all. It meant that I couldn’t put the book down, I needed to read more about their hopes, fears, dreams and struggles. There are the in-laws for example… Gill Oliver, the author, wrote this book, basing it on her husband’s stroke, and what they went through, and are still going through, as a family. It made this beautiful story even more special. It made me wonder all through the book, Is that what it was like for them? It also meant that the book is detailed and involved, poignant as well as uplifting. As I said, it’s a real page-turner, sweet, funny, heartwarming as well as heartbreaking."

Hark at them…

May 22, 2022 No Comments

Another year, another Stroke Awareness month… I’m thrilled that Somerset libraries have  taken the opportunity to join in, with this month’s podcast. Jeremy Thompson-Smith made

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Yevtushenko on untruth… a verse translation

May 20, 2022 No Comments

https://youtu.be/d-fQFMO7654 Back in March, as the war in Ukraine gathered pace, I became obsessed with the memory of a poem I’d studied as a sixth-former,

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On getting stuck in a shed

July 3, 2021 No Comments

Music to my ears from David Mitchell  at this year’s Sidmouth Literary Festival Knowing neurosis from the inside ought to be really useful for a

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Book tour, March 2021

April 15, 2021 No Comments

Thank you Kelly at www.lovebookstours.com for organising this virtual book tour! And to all the lovely book bloggers who participated.

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Making Headway

March 21, 2021 No Comments

A big preoccupation right now is introducing Joe Faber to as many people as possible. So it’s really thrilling to see the Headway interview with Terry and myself online!

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You really shouldn’t do that…

January 28, 2021 No Comments

This article first appeared in My Weekly online, 26 January 2021. “So,” asked my interviewer, “what are you working on now?” She smiled approvingly when

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Filed Under: News, Reviews

Making Headway

March 21, 2021 by Gill

A big preoccupation right now is introducing Joe Faber to as many people as possible. So it’s really thrilling to see the Headway interview with Terry and myself online. 

Headway is the brain injury charity which offers support through a network of local centres and its own rather lovely website. We were already fans of this organisation because of the help they continue to give an old friend who suffered a cerebral aneurysm.

 Many months ago now, before the paperback was out, I was contacted by a reader, Sue, who’s a therapist working for the charity. At that point she hadn’t even finished the book, but she was enjoying it, and could see its usefulness to clients and their families – alongside all the excellent non-fiction which is available. I can’t express how much that meant to me: it was exactly what I’d hoped. Sue has been a tremendous champion, pointing me to the right contact, and the upshot is this beautifully produced article. Read Headway interview

A big aspect of the Headway website is its ‘share your story’ invitation. In an area where both the effects of injury and experiences of care are very varied, it’s always been important to share stories.  It has never been more so than during the Covid crisis, when hospital visiting is not allowed. This puts huge pressure on already overstretched nurses, and it’s truly awful for the patients themselves as they start to recover and the realities sink in. But also, bluntly, brain injured patients are being discharged to bewildered families and caregivers who simply haven’t had the opportunity to learn at the bedside from medical staff. They haven’t even had the opportunity to come to terms with the changes in their loved ones. They’re shocked by what they find. They haven’t seen progress – which may come by minute increments – first hand, so they can’t see that the trajectory is a positive one. They may lack hope. If you’ve connected with, say, a facebook stroke supporters group, your will know what I mean – they have so many heartbreaking questions, and it’s not officially anybody’s job to check they’ve been answered. And that’s before you even start trying to understand things like discharge procedures and the social care system. Add to that the stress of managing care alongside home working and home schooling, and people are in despair. 

I will never forget how simultaneously thrilled and terrified I was when my husband came home. And I was well prepared! I’d picked up so much along the way, and benefitted from multiple short but meaningful interactions with the nursing staff, who had a conceptual framework for all this which I lacked. They were able to say, this is normal, this is a good sign, this is what we do. Before discharge I was able to get them to show me how to make Terry comfortable in bed, and physios taught him how to get in and out of a car.  Admittedly, he hadn’t mastered the Zimmer at that stage, and I hadn’t grasped the basics of manoeuvring a wheelchair beyond the smooth flooring of a hospital. This is nothing compared with what people are facing up to now. There is so much to adapt to, and it all takes time to sink in. The awful thing is that every jar and every little hurt or scare can resonate for hours, even days, in the lived experience of a seriously weakened person. Essentially you’re bringing home a newborn – because yes, this person has literally been born into their second life – but a newborn who has an adult identity to protect, and who doesn’t fit in a cot.

Headway, Stroke Association, Carers UK – all deserve our support.

Hark at them…

May 22, 2022 No Comments

Another year, another Stroke Awareness month… I’m thrilled that Somerset libraries have  taken the opportunity to join in, with this month’s podcast. Jeremy Thompson-Smith made

Read More »

Yevtushenko on untruth… a verse translation

May 20, 2022 No Comments

https://youtu.be/d-fQFMO7654 Back in March, as the war in Ukraine gathered pace, I became obsessed with the memory of a poem I’d studied as a sixth-former,

Read More »

On getting stuck in a shed

July 3, 2021 No Comments

Music to my ears from David Mitchell  at this year’s Sidmouth Literary Festival Knowing neurosis from the inside ought to be really useful for a

Read More »

Book tour, March 2021

April 15, 2021 No Comments

Thank you Kelly at www.lovebookstours.com for organising this virtual book tour! And to all the lovely book bloggers who participated.

Read More »

Making Headway

March 21, 2021 No Comments

A big preoccupation right now is introducing Joe Faber to as many people as possible. So it’s really thrilling to see the Headway interview with Terry and myself online!

Read More »

You really shouldn’t do that…

January 28, 2021 No Comments

This article first appeared in My Weekly online, 26 January 2021. “So,” asked my interviewer, “what are you working on now?” She smiled approvingly when

Read More »

Filed Under: Stroke Support Tagged With: fiction from life, Headway, stroke recovery, stroke rehab

You really shouldn’t do that…

January 28, 2021 by Gill

This article first appeared in My Weekly online, 26 January 2021.

“So,” asked my interviewer, “what are you working on now?” She smiled approvingly when I said I was writing a novel; a funny book about a serious subject.

The smile curdled when I told her it was about stroke rehab.

My defence is that when my husband had a life-changing brain haemorrhage, professionals told us that the people who made the best recovery had two things in common: grit, and humour. Knowing that, first-hand, is quite a different thing from selling the idea to strangers, however. It was only in the cocoon of a writing retreat that I read out my first sketch – a scene about hoarding urinals and the difficulty of peeing uphill, one-handed. The person who laughed longest and loudest made a pronouncement: this book must someday be published, so that she could read it to her sister, who’d had a stroke. That was all the permission I needed.

Talking about this project, I’ve sometimes met with an awkward coolness, because making comedy out of sickness and disability is in poor taste. The more experience a person has of stroke recovery, however, the more likely they are to break into a broad smile, because they know how bonkers that world is. From the Catch 22 of the Blue Badge (a 6 month wait even to apply for one, so when you most need it, you’re least entitled – and you have to promise not to get better), to the psychological assessment which asks a hemiplegic in a hospital bed whether he still enjoys gardening. You couldn’t make it up.

The stroke has left Terry disabled and robbed him of both his career and his hobbies. But he’s lost neither grit nor humour. And he survived, which outweighs everything. It taught us both to live for the day, and perhaps, paradoxically, that’s the essence of optimism: to deal with what’s in front of you, without fear. In the long process of writing and editing this novel, we’ve both processed our experiences and yes, it’s been cathartic.

In Joe Faber and the Optimists, I shamelessly exploited our first six months of serial incompetence as care giver and care grabber (we were often swapping roles).

Now, my husband’s biggest gripe with the finished book is the laughs I missed out. The cognitive test where he had to think of as many words as possible beginning with the letter F (it culminated in a very loud F-F-FORNICATION and giggles all round). A near-disastrous outing to a shopping mall, where borrowed and mechanically unreliable mobility scooter met similarly unreliable hand. Instead of coming to a gentle halt as Terry parked neatly at the edge of the Parisian terrasse of Café Rouge, it edged slowly forward and we watched as one set of table and chairs collapsed neatly onto another, threatening to impale the single diner by the wall.

Joe Faber and the Optimists has a largish cast of invented characters and a made-up story. But the stroke details are pretty faithful to Terry’s experience and will be familiar to many.

Did he really stash urinals so as not to have to call nurses at night? He did.

Did he really take 3 steps from sofa to the mantelpiece before realising he couldn’t get back? He did.

Did he really board the plane to Sumburgh on an evac chair, for lack of an Ambilift at Glasgow? Oh, bumpitty, bumpitty, crunch, crack, yes.

Honestly, if you didn’t laugh, you’d cry.

Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: humour, stroke recovery, stroke rehab, taste

Launching in lockdown

December 3, 2020 by Gill

2020 will go down as a bad year for Napoleonic plans, but a great year for taking up qigong, and in particular, learning to shift your weight without falling over.

 Anything which involved putting a date in a calendar, or contacting public and private bodies, or  even putting physical objects in physical places, has been doomed and we’ve been thwarted time and again in our plans for the publication and launch of Joe Faber and the Optimists.

We finally gave up waiting for the time to be right for that cosy book launch at Winstone’s bookshop, Sherborne, with friends, fizz and a few posh nibbles.   A couple of months ago, we launched the paperback version of Joe Faber and the Optimists via Zoom.  Yes, I know, yawn… it’s not the same is it?

Extract from book launch interview, September 2020

How did this novel come about?

Including a few words from my husband Terry. Interviewer Susan Elderkin.  Event organised by Liz Gordon from Brilliant Fish 

HOWEVER it did present some opportunities we wouldn’t otherwise have had. It made it possible for friends and family from far and near to come together. My Shetland family for a start; my naughty little sister was the inspiration for Nell in the book, so it was great that she could be there.  Two wonderful writers,  members of my reading panel whose editorial comments were invaluable, were involved – that’s Juliette Adair in Uplyme and William Davidson in York – as well as writing colleagues from here and now. The lynchpin, responsible for introducing us all in the first place, was   Susan Elderkin, who conducted the interview with such poise and insight. It was wonderful to see friends from Wales and Herefordshire in the same ‘room’ as the Dorset / Somerset gang.  So it made for quite a celebration.

Zoom also allowed the event to be recorded. Armed with the conviction that iMovie is designed to be used by children, I’ve started editing some short  extracts, which I’ll be posting here.

2020 has blocked our route more times than I care to remember but it’s also led us down some unexpected paths. 

Let’s hear it for optimism!

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: fiction from life, resilience, stroke

Recent reads: The Dutch House, Ann Patchett

September 2, 2020 by Gill Leave a Comment

A brilliant examination of so many things. The way a child is shaped by other people, and the people who love us most of all, for good or ill. The strength of other people’s expectations. The pressures on men as well as women to slip into a desired role. The ways in which, rebelling, we fall into line. The permanent revolution which is identity. There’s a lovely rhythm to this book in backwards/ forwards motion, and it’s a masterclass in bringing every story arc home to land.
Yes, there are things which aren’t explained and which we’d love to know; but that’s a mark of the truthfulness of this book. For example, I’d love to hear Norma’s account of her childhood; but that would be another book, and the whole couldn’t be so tight. In scale and scope, suggesting reality far beyond the frame, this was just right for me.

Filed Under: Literary Fiction

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